Thursday, December 29, 2011

Why New Year's Resolutions Fail, And How to Succeed Instead


This is the time of year when people reevaluate their lives and set intentions for a new beginning. Among the most popular new year resolutions are: lose weight, stop smoking, eat healthier, get fit, save money, get a better job. And yet, 88% of new year's resolutions end in failure. Gym memberships go up, diet programs get started, and within a few short weeks, all is forgotten. We are creatures of habit and return to what is comfortable, familiar, mindless,habitual or conditioned.

In his new book, The Four Desires: Creating a Life of Purpose, Happiness, Prosperity, and Freedom, Rod Stryker (creator of Para Yoga, or yoga of fulfillment) does a good job of explaining the difference between a resolution and an intention, called a sankalpa in Sanskrit. A sankalpa is an intention that is aligned with the deepest desire of your soul to evolve and achieve the fulfillment of its dharma, a life's path guided by universal principles and spiritual discipline.

When we make resolutions that are not aligned with our highest good, or, as Stryker explains, there are forces greater than what we intend (called a vikalpa), we fail to sustain the effort required to manifest our sankalpa. A vikalpa usually refers to erroneous thought governed by unruly emotions and desires. These interfere with the discipline to engage our will and determination in service of the sankalpa, or highest intention. A simple example would be to determine, "I want to lose weight," but be overwhelmed by emotional cravings and revert to comfortable patterns of soothing distress that do not support the behaviors that lead to weight loss. Stryker offers suggestions for breaking these negative habits or patterns, as well as a pathway for creating a fulfilling life.

It requires spiritual effort to be true to yourself, uncover what blocks you from achieving your good, and dedicate sustained energy toward your soul's desires. It requires awakening your awareness and consciousness and not allowing yourself to "fall asleep" again and falling back into unconscious, conditioned ways of being. So in the next few days, resolve to spend some time in quiet self-reflection, going within and inquiring into the deepest truth of your being. If you want, follow Rod Stryker's suggested exercises to uncover the true desires of your soul for its greatest unfolding, and determine what your sankalpa for the coming year is. May you be successful in maintaining your resolve to evolve in 2012, and to achieve your greatest dreams and desires. May your success contribute to the success of all humanity to awaken to a more peaceful, harmonious, sustainable world.

May all beings be happy, may all beings be at peace, may all beings be free from suffering. Namaste!

Friday, November 11, 2011

Nourishing the Hungry Heart: A 12-Week Workshop for Compulsive Overeaters

Do you want to change your relationship with food and body image through mindfulness, emotional processing, and body awareness exercises? You might be ready to participate in this 12-week series of experiential exercises conducted in 90-minute sessions and designed to explore all dimensions of hunger (mental, physical, emotional, and spiritual), promote self-acceptance, and motivate sustainable, long-term behavior change. This workshop offers a non-diet approach to healthy eating that encourages self-awareness of eating behaviors and triggers to achieve balanced eating by addressing and extinguishing the underlying issues contributing to overeating. The workshop will teach the use of body-awareness, mindfulness, yoga and movement, and concrete emotion regulation skills to alter disordered eating patterns and achieve a healthy, biologically appropriate weight.

Objectives:
1. Monitor eating behaviors and identify triggers (“what are we really hungry for?”)
2. Increase motivation to change behaviors by identifying obstacles and discovering solutions with support from other group members
3. Learn basic mindfulness, emotion-regulation and stress-reduction skills to maintain healthy eating and eliminate chaotic patterns
4. Enhance awareness of the internal cues that tell us what is “too much” or “not enough” and learn to live from the “inside out.”
5. Develop tools to cope with emotions, manage body-image dissatisfaction, overcome compulsions and celebrate progress!

Dates: January 11 through March 28, 2012
Days & Times: Wednesdays, 7:00-8:30 pm
Location: The Counseling Group, 2840 SW 3rd Avenue, Miami, Florida 33129
Cost: $50/session (insurance may cover and we can check your benefits)

Facilitator:
Inge Sengelmann, LCSW, SEP is a Somatic Experiencing® Practitioner who specializes in eating disorders and the resolution of disorders of extreme stress resulting from overwhelming life events.

Group will be limited to 8 participants, so please contact me for more information at The Counseling Group by calling 305-857-0050 or emailing info@counselinggroupmiami.com

Dialectical Behavior Therapy Skills Training Group Begins January 2012

Do you want to develop skills to achieve emotional balance and fulfilling interpersonal relationships? DBT skills groups can be a valuable addition to individual therapy because they offer practical strategies for managing strong emotions. Group members are encouraged to participate in the whole cycle of skills training, which may take up to six (6) months. The group will be limited to 8 participants and be closed after the first skills cycle. Both male and female clients are welcome. Group members are required to be in individual therapy, which does not have to be with The Counseling Group therapists as long as the individual therapist is willing to support the use of DBT.

The skill areas are taught in 4 modules, each lasting 4-6 weeks, so this is a 6-month commitment to learn and apply the skills. There are practices assigned for each week and reviewed at the beginning of the next group. The skills are:

•Mindfulness: The "core" DBT skill is to learn to cultivate non-judgmental awareness of present-moment experiences, thoughts, emotions, and behavioral impulses. Because mindfulness is so central to DBT, we not only spend 4 weeks on learning this skill, but we also do a mindfulness practice together every week.

•Emotion Regulation: Understanding what emotions are, their functions, and skills to de-escalate or change them is key to reducing suffering.

•Interpersonal Effectiveness: Specific relational skills are taught to balance personal needs without damaging relationships or feeling overwhelmed by them.

•Distress Tolerance: When emotional experience is overwhelming, and you feel unable to change it, there are ways to tolerate this distress without engaging in self- or other-destructive behaviors.

Dates: January 10, 2012 through June 26, 2012
Days and Times: Tuesdays, 7:00 – 8:30 p.m.
Cost: $75/session (the fee may be covered by insurance and we can verify your benefits)
Location: The Counseling Group, 2840 SW 3rd Avenue, Miami, FL 33129.

Facilitators:
The first step in joining the DBT Skills Training Group is to meet with one of the facilitators individually, Inge Sengelmann, LCSW, SEP or Kristin Jones, MS, MHC

Call 305-857-0050 for more information.

Sunday, October 2, 2011

Asociacion Estima Trains Professionals in El Salvador about Eating Disorder Prevention and Treatment

More than 30 psychologists, counselors, psychiatrists and nutritionists participated in a full-day workshop I offered on Friday in San Salvador, El Salvador on the subject of advances in the understanding and treatment of eating disorders, at the invitation of Asociacion Estima, a non-governmental organization established to raise awareness and educate the public and professionals about prevention and treatment. It was a dynamic, interactive workshop that ignited the curiosity of the local professionals about new theories and interventions that are based on insights from neuroscience. A second, half-day seminar was geared to helping parents and family members recognize the symptoms and understand how to navigate the sensitive path of dealing with a loved one who is struggling. More than 50 participants attended and mentioned cases of young men with anorexia and bulimia, shattering the myth that these disorders only affect women in developed nations. Participants also reported cases in all socio-economic groups. The nation's main newspaper, El Diario de Hoy, today published a story about the presentations and highlighted some of my remarks. I am grateful to Julia Raquel Aguilar de Orellana, president of Asociacion Estima, for her tireless work on behalf of the foundation and her gracious efforts to make me feel welcome. Her passionate dedication to this cause is changing the attitudes and perceptions of both professionals and the general public in El Salvador about eating disorders.

Sunday, September 25, 2011

Ending the Battle with the Body to Restore its Wisdom: Somatic Awareness and Eating Disorders


Eating disorders, at their core, are disorders of autonomic distress regulation. Dissociation from bodily experience leading to disruptions in response to the body’s needs are a hallmark of these disorders. In persons with eating disorders, the body has become the battlefield for uncontrolled emotions, and the war manifests as self-destructive behaviors that are, paradoxically, attempting to maintain the organism’s integrity. Characterized by pervasive core deficits in the self-regulation of food intake, emotion, cognition, behaviors, eating disorders (and their often-accompanying self-mutilation) represent dissociated compensatory attempts to serve self-regulatory functions.

Early histories of persons with eating disorders often include injuries to the secure attachment system, without which it is veritably impossible for the neural pathways that mediate affect regulation to develop. Because these pathways between the limbic and cortical areas of the brain are missing or insufficient, people with eating disorders live in a constant flux of autonomic dysregulation – or become dorsal dominant and “numb” to most stimuli, including hunger and fullness signals.

Studies of brain functioning in individuals with anorexia and bulimia have shown impairments in the functioning of the insula and the anterior cyngulate gyrus, areas responsible for interoceptive awareness, the integration of sensory information and emotions, the regulation of aggressive impulses, as well as behavioral motivation and coordination of motor impulses. The insula also is responsible for assigning reward value to foods, a function disrupted in persons with anorexia who respond differently to taste stimuli. Furthermore, these same areas of the brain are largely responsible for the perception of the body-in-space, and when impaired, lead to symptoms of body dysmorphia (at worst) or body dissatisfaction (at best).

A review of the literature indicates that individuals with eating disorders are more likely than others to have a history of trauma and, conversely, those with trauma are more likely to report disordered eating patterns – making trauma a risk factor for eating disorders. Studies report rates of up to 45 percent of eating disordered patients endorsing traumatic experiences, with the highest trauma rates reported by patients with bulimic symptoms. These rates are much higher, closer to 80 percent, when taking into account a broader definition of trauma that might include any event that taxes the person’s capacity to protect their integrity and is perceived as life threatening at a conscious or subconscious level. Any history of trauma in these eating disorder patients is correlated with increased levels of impulsivity and dissociation, both of which increase symptom severity and are correlated to longer length of illness and poor prognosis. Again, symptoms of eating disorder serve functional, albeit distorted, survival strategies to overwhelming, chronic, inescapable stress and acute trauma in childhood.

All of these factors support the use of practices that increase interoceptive awareness, assist in the regulation of autonomic hyperarousal or hypoarousal, and discharge the “un-digested” (pun intended) survival energies of trauma. Mindfulness, particularly mindfulness of body sensations, is a great adjunct to any treatment of eating disorders. Scientific studies have shown that mindfulness practice increases gray matter in the areas of the brain known to regulate emotion. Antonio Damasio, who introduced the concept of somatic markers, posited that rational decision making cannot be divorced from emotion or body awareness. These qualities of awareness of self must be cultivated and enhanced to increase our resiliency and wellbeing.

Finally, Somatic Experiencing® is particularly suitable in the treatment of eating disorders, where eating behaviors have been equated with stress at a sub-cortical level – whether the stress comes from hunger, which is regulated by over-feeding in binge eating, or by fullness, which is regulated by starvation in anorexia. In bulimia, food serves to soothe sympathetic over-activation, while the purging cycle discharges serve as a way to 'purify' or cleanse the self, and serve as a metaphor for expelling uncomfortable or "dirty" feelings and experiences from the body, returning the person for a moment to a dorsal vagal state of numbness. On the other extreme, men (more often than women) who pursue over-muscularity (some call it “bigorexia”) are creating a “body-shield” sourced in past physical abuse.

In eating disorders, needs are overcoupled with shame, people become mistrustful of cues related to hunger and fullness, want to eliminate signs of sexuality from the body, and feel like they are “too much,” or “not enough.” Society, and sometimes family, fosters that sense of shame when it does not permit physical, sexual, or emotional diversity to exist. Living in a world where hunger is in constant conflict with the “thin ideal” and where being “fat” in a “thin world” oppresses young men and women every day, can be “traumatic.” Wanting to restrict food intake and “failing” leads people to feel “betrayed” by their own bodies. When bodily responses fail to measure up to these impossible standards, eating disorders brew.

Regardless of the presentation, somatic awareness to deepen therapeutic interactions, provide access to disconnected emotions, and nurture a sense of “safe” embodiment becomes crucial to healing. Using SE, treatment providers can “titrate” (gradually expose) all aspects of treatment, including nutritional and weight restoration, within the person’s “window of tolerance.” All overcoupled and undercoupled aspects of the person’s experience (sensation, image, behavior, affect and meaning) can be gradually discharged or integrated to restore a person’s sense of wellbeing and resilience. This includes the internal hunger, fullness and satiety cues necessary to long-term recovery and the end of the dieting, starvation, binge eating, purging cycles.

Monday, August 29, 2011

Coming Home to Self: A 50 Year Quest


“Dichoso el árbol, que es apenas sensitivo, y más la piedra dura porque esa ya no siente, pues no hay dolor más grande que el dolor de ser vivo, ni mayor pesadumbre que la vida consciente.” These words of Ruben Dario, the iconic Nicaraguan poet who revolutionized literature in Latin America and died an alcoholic, capture the essence of my discontent in being born into this sentient life. I was born September 4, 1961, the dawn of a new era of rebellion and discord, attempts at transformation through the destruction of traditional structures and constructs. It is the year the Frente Sandinista de Liberación Nacional came into existence, and a group of idealists began to plot the bloody overthrow of a decades-long dictatorship in the country of my birth. The Nicaraguan civil war will rage as I enter my equally forlorn adolescence, as will the war within my family, and the endless battle for the right to take up space, to breathe my own air. War, external and internal, will rip apart everything that held me together in one piece, giving me a sense of permanence, solidity and identity. I will be grasping for years at some sense of meaning and belonging in the midst of global cultural and political upheaval, old concepts falling away while a collective birthing process of new ideas rocks the world with labor pains. The Russian missile crisis, the Bay of Pigs Invasion (with Nicaragua as a launching pad), JFK’s and Martin Luther King’s assassinations, the Vietnam War, protest marches and the anti-war movement, the sexual revolution, the birth of feminism, the death of racist structures, transcendental meditation, LSD and psilocybin psychedelic explorations into altered states of consciousness, peace, love, rock & roll and flights to the moon.
This is the world I was born into, the daughter of a Nicaraguan-born German whose parents escaped war-torn Germany in the 1920s and lost their German citizenship because they refused to recognize Hitler, and a Nicaraguan mother from a family of 11 children whose father died when she was nine (of an alcohol-related highway accident or a politically-motivated assassination, no one knows for sure). My father wore pleated pants and pencil-thin ties in black, brown or navy with a starchy white shirt. My mother was a hippie-wanna-be painter who grew marijuana in the back yard. Fifty years later, they are ultra-conservative, right-wing, born-again and still married. I have come full circle from my socially conscious upbringing by the Teresiana nuns. After searching for a true identity through various cultures and cities, I have come home to myself - or should I say, my Self. I have embraced my existence and love this journey called the human experience. I even love this body that I used to condemn and despise, for it is the vehicle for a Pure Consciousness that is sweet and enduring. I know who I am, why I am here, and how to serve. In the words of Andrew Cohen, I have embraced "the mysterious compulsion to become more conscious." A far cry from Dario's words that the conscious life is the most painful thing to endure.

Monday, August 22, 2011

Full Recovery is Possible, Costin Writes

Carolyn Costin, founder of The Monte Nido Treatment Center in Malibu, CA, believes full and total recovery from an eating disorder is possible,having recovered from one herself. This is how Costin (who treated Portia de Rossi and Jenni Schaefer, who have authored memoirs of their own recovery process) describes recovery: "Being recovered is when a person can accept his or her natural body size and shape and no longer has a self-destructive relationship with food or exercise. When you are recovered, food and weight take a proper perspective in your life, and what you weigh is not more important than who you are; in fact, actual numbers are of little or no importance at all. When recovered, you will not compromise your health or betray your soul to look a certain way, wear a certain size, or reach a certain number on a scale. When you are recovered you do not use eating disorder behaviors to deal with, distract from, or cope with other problems." In her new book, 8 Keys to Recovery from an Eating Disorder

She lists the keys as: 1) Motivation, patience and hope; 2) Nurturing the healthy self to heal the eating disorder self; 3) Feel your feelings; 4) Change your thoughts; 5) Change your behaviors; 6) Reach out to people rather than an eating disorder; 7) Find meaning and purpose; and last but not least, 8) It is not about the food, but it is about the food (nutritional restoration is critical to support recovery but is not the source of the eating disorder nor the sole focus of treatment).

Saturday, July 30, 2011

Is the Much-Maligned, Oft-Abused Body the Key to Happiness and Bliss?


I am reading this book for Unity on the Bay's Adventure in Faith program and the very first chapter is about listening to the body! As a Somatic Experiencing Practitioner, I could not agree more. Awareness of body sensation discharges negative emotions and opens us up to access the bliss centers of the brain. One simple suggestion in the book is to keep your attention on distracting sensations in the body (such as pain, or tension) until they disappear. Instead of reacting to the sensation, paying attention extinguishes the stimulus-response process and stops the reaction from "fueling itself." Once the sensation passes, the body recognizes its innate, harmonious self-regulation capacity. Deepak Chopra takes it one radical step forward, stating: “Your physical body is a fiction,” Dr. Chopra states. "Every cell is made up of two invisible ingredients: awareness and energy." In his view, relaxed awareness (resulting from a coherent nervous system) is our natural state. Body awareness changes the pattern of distracting in unhealthy ways when stressed or overwhelmed.

Friday, July 29, 2011

Nourishing Secure Attachment


Last month I attended Diane Poole Heller's Dynamic Attachment Re-patterning Experience workshop on Creating Adult Relationships and learned skills to help people heal from early attachment wounds that disrupt their adult relationships. Continually evolving knowledge about neurobiology now confirms that we are designed to heal and that maladaptive attachment dynamics can be reconditioned to our natural, innate healthy, secure attachment design. Diane's understanding of somatic relational practices to effect lasting change on attachment patterns is a great contribution to human healing and the evolution of our authentic selves. Her work is informed by the work of Stan Tatkin, author of Love and War in Intimate Relationships and Wired for Love.