On February 14th, we celebrate love. From the Lupercalia fertility festivals in ancient Rome, to the 58 million pounds of Valentine's chocolate we consume today – we celebrate romance. And why shouldn’t we? According to Dr. Stan Tatkin’s new book, we are Wired for Love, neurobiologically designed to connect, pair up and bond to survive and thrive. Dr. Tatkin designed, teaches and researches a Psychobiological Approach to Couple Therapy® (PACT) that utilizes our understanding of how early attachment impacts brain and nervous system development and specific neuroendocrine pathways to interpersonal stress. Using PACT, a therapist attends to the “moment-to-moment variations and shifts in affect and arousal as observed in the face, body, and voice” in order to engage partners in behaviors that reduce the arousal and increase healthy bonding. Dr. Tatkin has also co-authored a book for professionals titled Love and War in Intimate Relationships, with Marion Solomon, another couple therapy luminary. Read Dr. Tatkin’s free downloadable Ten Commandments for Relationship Essentials and share them with your sweetheart this Valentine’s Day. If you want to take preventive measures to improve your romantic relationship, you also may want to pick up a copy of Wired for Love to understand how you and your partner’s brain and attachment styles can help you build a secure relationship.
